February 14th, 2003


Happy Valentine's Day!!!

Well you know, Valentine's Day just kind of snuck up on me this year. Not that it caught me by surprise, I knew it was coming and what I wanted to do with my boy today for quite a little while now. I wanted to get cards for some people. Yesterday I realized I hadn't. Ooops. I guess they'll be late.

Anyway, I hope that you all are having a good day. I love you all.

I thought this was interesting.

February 14, 2003 on this day:

In 1876 Alexander Graham Bell patented the telephone. This became
the most profitable patent of all time, and the telephone has
since become a cornerstone of modern life. What is not known is
that a rival inventor, Elisha Gray, also invented the telephone
at the same time as Bell. He even tried to patent it on the very
same day but his application arrived at the patent office a few
hours after Bell's. Bell went on to become one of the wealthiest
people in America. Gray was largely forgotten.

Talk about timing!

Because I'm just posting my little heart out at the moment.

I like Valentine's Day. I've always liked Valentine's Day. It's not my favorite holiday and I know that it's basically a totally manufactured holiday with vague pagan and Christian origins. Well, perhaps I should say flavorings? Ok, this is the day of a pagan holiday and there was a St. Valentine who may or may not have existed. I could look this stuff up but I don't feel like it at the moment so feel free to correct me if I am wrong.

Anyway, I've never really been anti-Valentine's Day. Not in elementary school when I didn't receive any candy-grams (we had to give everyone Valentines if we passed them out, candy-grams were a different school fundraiser thing. Not in high school when the cool thing to do was to not like Valentine's Day. I tried. I just couldn't get up enough loathing for it.

I suppose this may partially have to do with the fact that I do not see Valentine's Day as a couples only holiday. My mom would always give my sister and I little gifts and cards for Valentine's Day. I would make a card for her. My mom would buy a card for me to give my sister (when I was little, now I buy my sister a card). My mom would encourage me to give Valentines to my friends. I would get those little boxes, featuring a cartoon character and hand them out at school, give some to friends outside of school. My mom would put red ribbons in my hair and give me a cute little Valentine pin. It was dorky. I got teased on occasion in middle school, but . . . I must admit now there was a part of me that liked it. And there was always at least one person who would pull me aside and compliment me on my pin or my hair ribbons.

Right now, I miss my mom asking me if I want some Valentine's earrings before I go out. My toes are red and sparkly right now. Not just because I like red and sparkly toe polish. Because it's Valentine's Day. I will probably repaint my finger nails after I shower. And wear red lipstick.

This is going to be kind of rambly and unorganized by the way. I'm thinking as I type and I don't think I'll want to edit much. Not that I edit lots anytime I write here. Anyway, on to high school in my Valentine memories.

I went to an all-girls Catholic high school. I know in many ways it is a very different world. There was lots of girl-bonding (get your head out of the gutter!) and strong friendships and such. Valentine's Day was celebrated, you would see girls carrying balloons and flowers and such all day. There would be deliveris in class. Sometimes the gifts were from a boyfriend. Sometimes parents. Sometimes it was the girl's best friend. There were Valentine bags set up in section (our homeroom) and all day long girls would drop things into each other's bags. Most of my group of friends didn't have a boyfriend until towards the end of high school so we focused on each other on Valentine's Day. It wasn't as a substitute for a boyfriend, it was because Valentine's Day was a day where we could show each other that we cared about them.

Anyway, the point that I am trying to make is that I just don't really see Valentine's Day as a purely romantic holiday. It's a day for telling the people that you care about how you feel. I know there are those that say that we shouldn't need a holiday to tell people we care about them and I agree. We should be able to tell our loved ones we care about them everyday. We shouldn't wait for Valentine's Day. However, life gets busy. Other worries take over. It is nice to have a day to remind us to let people know that we care whether it's mom, a best friend, significant other, or yourself. I like Valentine's Day for that reason. I also have a very sentimental cheesy side so I have to admit I like that side of Valentine's Day. And half of the fun for me is being festive about it, I must admit it. I like red.

Of course, I could also very easily forget about Valentine's Day. I like it, it's a good holiday, but I wouldn't be sad if something happened and I couldn't celebrate it. Valentine's Day should be a flexible holiday. Yeah.

And one more thing . . .

Today is also V-day. Check out wwww.v-day.org. This is just as important, more so really, than Valentine's Day.

Please, as you spend your day with your lover or other loved ones, spare a thought for the people who fear their lover. The people who will land in the hospital because of them. The people who will die today, on Valentine's Day, at the hands of their lover.

I think it is very suitable that V-day falls on Valentine's Day. The day that is promoted as the day for lovers. For hearts, flowers, candy. For many people this day will be bruises, blood, and screaming.

Note: I made it a point to say people rather than women. Men are the victims of domestic violence also and often do get forgotten in discussions of domestic violence.

End Public Service announcement.